The purpose of these daily reflections is the better learn Tarot and to get better acquainted with how to read and decipher them. In the morning I’ll be posting “Today’s Card” from the Shadowscapes Tarot App, along with it’s general meaning from Biddy Tarot. Later in the day I’ll cycle back to this post and analyze my day with the purpose of seeing how the card related to my daily experience.
JUNE 04, 2020
Today’s Tarot Card is: Queen of Wands Reversed
Queen Of Wands Keywords
REVERSED: Self-respect, self-confidence, introverted, re-establish sense of self
Reversed Queen Of Wands
The Queen of Wands reversed shows you have reached a place of self-respect and confidence. You know yourself on a deep level, and you are clear on your personal truth and belief systems. You know what you stand for you and you are not easily moved by the opinions of others. You have also defined what success means to you, even if it differs from others’ definitions.
The Queen of Wands reversed can also suggest that you may be more introverted than usual. Instead of being the social butterfly and centre of attention, you prefer to linger on the sidelines and watch what is going on. That’s perfectly okay – honour your needs and feelings and don’t push yourself to be extroverted and ‘out there’ when you don’t want to be. You may also feel called to spend more time alone so you can connect with your inner self and hear your inner voice.
If you have lacked in confidence, the Queen of Wands reversed invites you to bring your energy and attention inward and focus on rebuilding your sense of self and your resilience. You may have handed your power over to others by paying too much attention to their thoughts and opinions. Now, you need to bring your awareness inward, so you can hear yourself and access your personal strengths and talents. Discover who you are and be courageous in expressing ‘you’ in everything you do, even if it is different from what others expect of you.
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9:36 AM
I’ve been listening to my Healing playlist on Apple Music and working, thinking about my vent session in Tea Time from earlier this morning. The Trio is no more, I was told that there was no point to holding onto romantic feelings for Saint by him. Bubbles went along with his decision. They are a couple now. I been contemplating, meditating / Should have waited / Should have never dated / Guess that’s none of my concern anymore / None of my concern / It ain’t even worth it no more / It ain’t even worth it (even worth it)
None of Your Concern by Jhene Aiko has been on repeat for a while. It’s crazy that this song of all songs on this playlist comes on and I feel it in my soul, released the welling emotions from my eyes. My knee is jumping presently. I wish I could say that I’m no longer affected after almost a week of the final nail being driven into the coffin of the Trio; but no. Many of the lyrics in NoYC fit so well to our situation for many reasons. I don’t even have the mental energy to break down how, but I’ll drop some lines of the songs throughout.
I haven’t heard from either Saint or Bubbles since last Friday after I had my final conversation with Saint–not that I expected to hear from them. But yesterday she reached out to me and said the basic “Hey, how are you? I’m good!” Type of conversation. Very short, pointless. Nothing major, no news about the one thing I asked to be contacted about. Nada. A HUGE part of me REALLY wants to text her and ask why she’s even contacting me…like really, why? The audacity to question me / Like you ain’t leave me out here on my own. How do you THINK I’m doing?! What type of question is that?! Am I supposed to just spill everything out of my purse onto the table?! I was traumatized and suicidal / Sick and tired / Once I felt a way but not today / I’m not afraid now I can say / It’s none of your concern anymore
The whole reason Bubbles and I were introduced was for us to build a bond for a relationship with Saint—which was scrapped when they made their final decision. Saint legit told me there was no reason for me to hold romantic feelings for him and she went along with his decision.
Great. Good for y’all. So now that Saint and I are strictly acquaintances and not romantically involved, why does Bubbles feel the need to contact me?! You said you can only offer me friendship, but what’s the basis of our friendship? Is it gonna consist of these baseless awkward exchanges? Are we gonna tip toe around Saint as if he doesn’t exist? Or are we gonna dive right in and pretend what we shared never happened? Am I supposed to give you advice about your relationship with him? Listen to you recount memories and jokes that I was forbidden for participating in? Is it you want us to be besties now and I’m supposed to pretend that I didn’t love you? Just act like my heart isn’t still bruised and that I don’t miss you both? Nah, son.
Or could you be concerned because I am alone in this? Truthfully, I don’t want or need your sympathy or pity. You made your decision. You posted pics of just y’all two and made comments that make it clear I am no longer in the picture. So why contact me? What do you want? I been hearing things / And seeing things / And so it seems you’re moving on from me
Do you want me to say that I go through periods during each day where suddenly I’m crying because I remember it all and I feel like my heart was ripped out of my chest and shoved back in…how I miss you guys to the point where I can’t listen to certain music, or watch certain shows? How I’ve deleted my social media apps from my phone because it’s too easy for me to scroll past something you posted or to find myself on your pages for no reason at all. Is that what you want to hear Bubbles? How I have been rebuilding this wall around my heart slowly, because a small part of me holds out hope for a love to come back to me that rejected me? Get your ***** *** off of my phone / Please leave me alone / I am not your girl anymore / Don’t worry about who it is I’m fucking / Or who I am loving / Just know that it is not you
No. I can’t and I won’t say those things. You made your choices. Cool. I know when I’m not wanted and made no plans to stick around, like a dumb-ass, after the conversation Saint and I had. It’s over. Period.
So what do you want Bubbles?! Why like my pics and ish on social media? Why are you texting me?! Y’all don’t like the way I behaved right? Don’t trust me and probably lost respect for me right? So why are you texting me? What do you want? Is communicating with me an ego boost? Is this what you wanted all along?
I don’t care that the conversations we have consist of avoidance communication like it’s “Hey, How are you?” Why do you care how I am? You made your choice already. No need to feel bad for me and check up on me. For what?! Like why twist the knife further? What are you searching for? There’s nothing happening in my life. That’s all you need to know. I’m not going to allow you to gaslight me with your words that feel the same as they did before ties were cut.
This isn’t up for discussion / I wish you good luck man / When it comes to you / It’s none of my concern anymore / None of my concern
I’m just trying to do my best to not think about our former relationship, not think about your current relationship as a couple, and get over y’all as quickly as I can.
I’m just trying to be a better me, for me.
I just want to move on. It was a great two and a half months. I wouldn’t change anything about what we experienced–it was beautiful and amazing. But I have to leave it there. I can’t hold onto this, hold onto hope for what isn’t gonna come. Old me would do that. Hold on until the rope cut through my hand. But me today, no that won’t do. I’m taking everything at face value, period, actions and words alike.
It’s none of my concern anymore
None of my concern
I know that I’m deserving of more
I know what I deserve
(Is it worth it?)
Not scared to be alone anymore
Not scared to be alone
(Is it gonna work?)
It don’t even hurt anymore
It don’t even hurt
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The next song on my Healing playlist shuffle is Going On by Knarls Barkley…fitting, no?
Next is Gotta Get Thru This by Daniel Bedingfield
Speak by Jhene Aiko
Let Go by Frou Frou
Fin.