The purpose of these daily reflections is the better learn Tarot and to get better acquainted with how to read and decipher them. In the morning I’ll be posting “Today’s Card” from the Shadowscapes Tarot App, along with it’s general meaning from Biddy Tarot. Later in the day I’ll cycle back to this post and analyze my day with the purpose of seeing how the card related to my daily experience. The highlighted words in the card description are the ones that resonate with where I am today.
JUNE 10, 2020 – 4 of Wands (Upright)
Four Of Wands Keywords
UPRIGHT: Celebration, joy, harmony, relaxation, homecoming
REVERSED: Personal celebration, inner harmony, conflict with others, transition.
Four Of Wands Description
The Four of Wands shows two happy people dancing and celebrating with flowers in their hands. In the foreground, a beautiful wreath abounding with blossoms and grapes suspends between wands. Together, these elements represent the joy and satisfaction that comes with achieving an important goal or milestone. In the background, another group of people (perhaps a family) stand in front of a large castle, representing the safety and comfort of the home.
NOTE: The Tarot card meaning description is based on the Rider Waite cards.
Upright Four Of Wands
The Four of Wands is a card of joyful celebration, blissful happiness and appreciation for the good things in life. When this card appears in a Tarot reading, it is the perfect time to celebrate with those you love most. You may commemorate a significant event or milestone such as a wedding, birthday, homecoming or reunion. Or, you may invite a few of your favourite friends over for an intimate dinner for no particular reason except to revel in each other’s company. Relax and let your hair down – enjoy this special time together!
The Four of Wands can show that you are returning home or to the people and places familiar to you. You feel supported and secure, knowing you are with those who love you and care about you.
Because the Four of Wands associates so closely with the home environment, you may work on improving or renovating your house or are close to finding a new one. Perhaps you recently purchased a home and are getting ready to settle down in your new habitat.
The Four of Wands tells you that after a period of rapid growth and expansion (the energy of the Three of Wands), it’s now time to pause and celebrate what you have achieved so far. Step back for a moment and enjoy the fruits of your labour. Acknowledge your hard work and give yourself permission to take a small break before embarking on the next phase of your journey. It’s essential you observe these smaller milestones.
In numerology, four symbolises stability and firm foundations, and with the Four of Wands, you are now enjoying a period of happiness and security. This card indicates a sense of harmony and balance as well as completion and thus denotes a time of peace and contentment in life that comes as the result of hard-fought efforts.
If you have been working on a project, you will reach an important milestone and have reason to celebrate. If you just wrapped up your project, the Four of Wands represents the personal gratification of a job well done, a goal attained, and a vision beginning to be realised. You should be proud!
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7:49 pm
Today has been a good day. I finally finished How I Met Your Mother for the umpteenth time, and as usual I was emotional as the episodes wound down. Ted Mosby will always be a character I resonate with. A true romantic at heart, Ted has an unwavering belief in and determination to find love–it inspires me. The entire series revolves around his quest to find love that lasts and lasts, and the majority of it is a roller-coaster-ride of heartbreak and disappointment–with hundreds of laughs to ease the pain. But through it all, Ted remains hopeful, open, and only gets down a handful of times. He gets back on that horse again and again and again; knowing his love was out there somewhere looking for him too. And when he finds her, it’s magnificent.
At times I feel as though I am Ted. Constantly finding the wrong ones, except I don’t even get as close as he had–year long relationships, an engagement. But, I know I may be too vulnerable to bounce back continually from those intense relationships. Silver lining. Anyway, my card today is the 4 of Wands–celebration, relax and enjoy the fruits of your labor. I actually am in a state on calm, kind of on the precipice of something new. I know it’s coming, I just don’t know what it is or when. So I should take time to acknowledge my progress so far–I handled this most recent breakup very well. It took lots of isolation, tears, wailing, hard conversations with myself, prayers, rituals, meditation, reading, much introspection, and love–lots and lots of love for myself–but I am okay. I love so hard and deeply, I was so ready to throw away all the progress I had made over the past few years in regards to myself and dating, self esteem, opening my heart. But, I didn’t. I fought for myself. I may have been wrong to believe that the love I shared with Saint and Bubbles could withstand most anything, I wasn’t wrong in knowing that there is someone out there for me, who will love me just as much and as hard as I love them. They’re on the way to me. I just have to be patient, and keep growing in the meantime.
So, reluctantly (at first), I began dating again–but this time with intention. I want to be in a relationship, period. Now, the pandemic isn’t entirely over, so by dating I am referencing using Tinder lol. So far it’s been okay. I’m challenging myself to stay true to being open to love. I can’t achieve my goal of finding a lasting love if I am not open to receiving anyone. We’ll see what this leads to.
Throughout this “dating with intent” stage I’m still dedicating my time to myself and my personal growth and progress. So self-love and self-care is still the priority. I just ordered this workout plan and some equipment because it’s time to tone this jiggle and build this booty. My “before” pics will be take sometime this weekend. I’m still delving into spiritual practices and connecting with myself. At the moment I am in a stasis romantically, contentedly so. I want to be proud of myself for a bit before I dive into something new. Though I feel it coming, I am still remembering to cheer for myself, pat myself on the back, and reminding myself of my goals and how far I’ve come.
I am really glad I got the 4 of Wands today, because during times like this I usually do something stupid or slip back into a negative state of mind. Perhaps its because I am so used to constantly running and moving and chaos that I don’t know how to appreciate period of peace in which I am not required to do anything but be grateful and enjoy my success. Me 5 years ago, 3 years ago, a year and half ago, is so different than the woman I am today. And I am PROUD of that growth. I was stuck in that state of depression and negative self esteem and low self-value for all my adult life. I’m great at hiding what’s going on inside at times, so most people don’t know that about me. But I feel so unstoppable now. I have a strength I didn’t know I was capable of having. What I love most about this transformation is that it’s come full circle. I no longer force myself to hate the people who’ve hurt me. I don’t utilize damaging habits to numb the pain. I don’t ignore how I feel and lock the memories away. Instead, I open myself up more, allow all of the pain and heartache and sadness and anger to fill me up and flow through me. I feel it all. I cry and scream, I journal and express myself, I dance through the house and sing loudly, I sit in silence and meditate, I heal. I love myself through to the other side. Face myself and my mistakes, but instead of beating myself while I am down, I lift myself up and hug me tighter than I ever have before. I tell myself it will be okay, we have new love coming. I forgive myself, and restore my self esteem. I make myself laugh and I dance until I feel like I’m floating.
So this is a new me, I’ve evolved into a new version of myself. I’m another step closer to actualizing the girl who lives in my head. And for that, I am oh so proud of myself! Thank you universe for reminding me to clap loudly for me. I’ve gone through so much hell in my life and realize I am the only one who knows the whole story–so I’ve got to cheer me on. I’ve got to have my own back, be my own ride or die. Who else is going to ride for me and love me if I don’t ride for and love myself? I want to love myself so fiercely that anything that isn’t aligned with love and light doesn’t even enter my orbit. And I’m getting there. I love myself. I am proud of myself. I believe I am beautiful. I am talented and capable. I believe I can accomplish the things that I put my mind and heart to. And Love, is what my heart and head want.
I’ve been repeating a line from Save the Last Dance 2 in my head a lot the past few days, “My dreams changed.” I’ve never truly understood what Columbus Short’s character meant up until now. The things you once loved so much and were center to your existence, can change. You can desire to achieve new goals, be passionate about something different–even if people don’t understand or approve. And I realized a few months ago that my dream has always been love and family. Yes I’ve had career goals and body goals, yes. But my life’s goal is to build a home of shared love and to exist in that world as the multifaceted person I am. I want to be a mom, I want to live and love with a partner (or plural). That’s been my dream forever. I just always felt like I was betraying the strong feminists of the world by succumbing to the patriarchal standard of what I should aspire to be. I guess, growing up with my mother–the strongest and most capable woman I know–I never thought of myself as incapable when it came to my career or talents. She instilled in me that I could do anything (even though I was insecure as hell).